10 May 2017

10 things you should know about being a parent

Yes, the baby days. Those care free days when you have to worry about packing baby bags, bottle or breast and how long do they sleep. Honestly those days feel hard but the real stuff hits as your child gets older. The things they don't mention in the baby books include...

1. Fussy eating will continue to be a source of worry like when you weaned them. You will more than likely think you have done something wrong. Mostly you are not other than offering something they will like or you will need them to eat. But you will reach a point where actually spending time creating wonderful dinners to wow your families will leave you more stressed. Instead you will find creative dinners to serve with sausages, fish fingers or chicken nuggets (sticky sausage bake, fish fingers and cousous, crispy chicken wraps)- as mostly you can't be bothered to have the argument.

2. Getting ready for school will be more of a battle than trying to get a toddler dressed. You will shout random items of clothing, threaten you will take them to school in the pajamas and listen to the chorus of its not fair as they took so long to get dressed there is no chance of a cheeky Netflix watch before school. Occasionally the child will surprise you by getting ready at the speed of light and you think boom I got this. This is just a false sense of security and it will return to normality.

3. Personal hygiene, which was always easier when the baby would happily be dunked in the water or not have any teeth to cause concern for teeth brushing. Instead you will have to militant watching the brushing with a timer, and be filled with so much guilt when you get told the teeth need to be removed. You will stand in a door frame and insist your child who has been at school, then various after school activities etc needs a wash. They will protest. You will disagree. You will likely get annoyed. There may be tears.

4. Relaxing weekends with the baby which would include a stroll around the park or a quick trip to the shops or friends. This will now include packing up bags for football, swimming, parties, Kung fu. The car will always be full or toys, magazines, books and pens. Empty water bottles and they will also require snacks. You will spend so much time taking them in and out the car.

5. Sure as they get older they sleep longer at night. However now you have the bedtime battle - I need water, i'm reading, mummy can you answer questions. When the light gets turned off and now they are bigger when they have nightmares or sore tummies it will likely involve climbing up and laying in a bunk bed rather than a cot. They are also heavier when needing to move them into the correct beds!

6. The cute baby clothes and vests soon move into the kids growing so quickly that you reach the half term or summer holiday - realise they have grown 3 inches and the jeans that fitted them weeks ago are now finishing around their ankles. And you don't own enough "civilian" clothes to dress them for weeks on end. You make a mad dash to primark and then own so much you can't shut the drawer. Standard. This also applies to school socks. 

7. The baby stage is great at watching them learn to walk, talk and eat. Then you reach the stage where education kicks in. You are now at the mercy of the teachers, who talk to you about ways to do long multiplication, you look crossed eyed at maths puzzles and have to google phonic words that have the sound Sph-. They bypass the reading levels and you have to listen to stories of Kip and Biff before they can move to the elusive free reader level.

8. There was a point when that baby was at your side, in your eye line. As they get older they have more independence - you don't need to be at their side in the toilet, they can wait in the car while you drop their siblings off at school, can you sit and drink coffee while at soft play. There are obvious great advantages of this stage. But then you get clouded the worry with stranger danger, are they behaving, what are they saying, are they being bullied, are they being mean to another child.... The whirring thoughts of worry will continue. Am I worrying too much, not enough - back and forth.

9. When babies learn to talk this is so sweet, the mamma the dadda. Then the older stages this will been the babbling in the car on the drive to school about Pokemon cards, fidget spinners, why the fact the flash runs so quick. This also paves the way for the bickering about who is the winner, who picks what song, who wants to ask a question first. Their vocabulary is all of a sudden very wide.

10. That as much of the baby years you are learning as you go, thinking on your feet and finding a way through being a mum. The older years are much the same. Things are consistently changing. I have to learn about the latest craze, the TV programmes, which youtube channels are safe to watch, what reading level should he be at, the fact they loose coats and jumpers at an alarming rate (and when do I push full responsibility onto him) Raising boys (from my experience so far) is never dull, often busy and overwhelming but full of love and cuddles and giggles.


  1. Love this! It's so true, they do lull you into a false sense of security, you do a little celebration dance and then BANG its like it never happened. I also didn't relised how worried I'd be when they started school - are they being nice, are the making friends, I hope no is is bullying the. Ahhhhhhhhhh!

  2. This made me laugh as I have been there - read the book - got the t-shirt! I will not say I told you so but wait till they hit 18 and drive!

  3. I'd really like to read your post, thank you!