Becoming a parent is like game show. You know like the ones where you are thrown into the deep end and given a task to do. Normally something so ridiculous or something which takes all matter of skill. Like battling in a long term game of generation Game (if like me you are old enough to remember watching that on a Saturday evening). Sometimes the situations you find yourself in being a parent is laughable and other times so emotionally draining you feel like you've been beaten from every which way. It's one big learning curve. Faced with challenges and days where you think you can't possibly reach the finish line. From the very first time you take that pregnancy test and count down to watch the little lines appear to that first time you dress your little one in the their school uniform and usher them off to school. I know they are learning daily and I think I am too.
Becoming mummy to two boys brought a whole new fresh set of firsts. The first time you watch them play together, or curled up asleep together or sharing (granted this one is not as common as I would like!) but just because I've already been through it with one does not mean the sparkle and excitement of watching another little one grow has dulled. If anything I hope it's taught me some tips and tricks.
Weaning with my first born was all about getting it right. Boiling and vegetables. Making combinations, trying different jars. Offering things and making yummy things. But this approach did not work with my fussy eater. He refused meat, would eat very little, would cause me to get angry, annoyed. Would make me worry. His approach to mealtimes has always been tough, he's always too busy and wants to be doing anything but sitting down and eating. Even now his eating is cause for my worry and stress. I had no idea what I was doing when I went through weaning him. Was I doing it wrong? As the books, articles and leaflets all said it should work like this. I should do that. I should try that. And I did that and still my boy would not eat.
Sometimes doing something for the first time means it is peppered with these thoughts. Dotted with the I have no clue, I'm getting it wrong, this can't be right. It caused me tears, to hate mealtimes and generally feel like a failure.
What I learned after doing it a second time around that actually there was no right or wrong. There was no lists, steps or correct process I needed to follow. Nothing more than “am I offering my child a good selection of food” That first experience filled me with such upset and dread at mealtimes. It made me apprehensive when first weaning my littlest. But the thing they seem to forget in all the weaning advice. All the well managed ideas, recipes and points. That all kids are different. Just like all adults are. We don't all like the same things, we all have our quirks (like my tomato avoidance) or have our own ideas on a perfect meal. Kids have that too. My biggest might not be the best eater but he is getting better as he gets older.
My little one is (right now) a real foodie, especially if it's on your plate. He likes to try things, he loves meat and things with bold flavours like paprika crackers or curry and rice. My eldest isn't and would eat burger and chips followed by the biggest bowl of fruit salad for every meal. Sometimes doing something first will not mean you are an expert when the second time comes around. I think it just gives you a bit more experience to make that first time again less scary. It gave me a better idea of what to try, what to expect and what not to do (bursting into tears and begging your 2 year old to eat one spoonful of dinner is not a good look for you!)
I'm sure I will have many more firsts to come with these two loons. It's what makes parenting all that more fun. Right?
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