29 May 2012

{Dear ....}

Brand new mummy me,

I wish you knew what I know now. I wish I could of told you to relax. I wish I could of told you that whatever you choose to do is right for you and Maxwell. I wish I could of told you its all right to trust yourself, to listen to your instincts and believe that you being a mum to Maxwell is the best solution. I wish I could of told you that getting upset over breastfeeding was not needed, that choosing to formula feed and express was the right decision for you both, and you should not feel guilty. I wish I could of told you that co-sleeping with M is not wrong. In fact it works well for you as a family - especially at times when you are all tired or when M gets sick. To enjoy the fact he sleeps so happily between you and K. And you will feel happier as he is close to you. I wish I could tell you to believe in yourself as a mum. I wish I could tell you to stop and look at the little boy, you carried, gave birth to and brought into this world. You being his (happy) mum is all that needed. Embrace each day, make you choices and believe in yourself. You are a wonderful mum. Remember that.

Signed mummy to a 2 year old.

3 comments:

  1. I cam here from Shimelle's blog. I just want to say what good advice this post is for any new mother. I too remember the problems of breastfeeding and the guilt over giving formula to my son. I did breastfeed my daughter, and we co-slept as we both fell asleep during the night feeds.

    My kids are 15 and 12 now. Happy and healthy, but every new mum must agonise over the decisions she makes. Trust your instincts and believe that when you look back, you will have made the right decisions for you and your family.

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